How do you identify within the spectrum?
Aegosexual
What is your romantic orientation?
Questioning between homoromantic or aromantic
Do you like being commonly called “ace”?
It’s fine
Do you experience sexual attraction?
No
What is intimacy to you?
Trusting someone
What’s your outlook on love and sex?
I don’t care about it if it’s about myself, I’m “in love with love”, I enjoy fictional romantic and or sexual content but that’s about it
Do you experience sexual arousal/ masturbate?
Rarely
How do you feel about people being sexually attracted to you?
I don’t care
What are your thoughts on the “A” in LGBTQIA+ often standing for “ally” instead of “asexual”?
Luckily I’ve never seen that, but when it happens it must suck, exclus are very annoying
Respond to the phrase “Maybe you just haven’t had good sex yet”
I’ve had this said to me by straight men, it’s as easy as telling them they’ve never gotten pounded in the ass by the right dick
Are you monogamous or non-monogamous?
I’ve only been in monogamous relationships but I don’t really care
How does your experience of asexuality relate to your gender?
People just think I’m being shy, self conscious or think it’s my low self esteem, still, I know men got it worse with asexuality at least so I’m not complaining
How did you come to realise that you were asexual?
Went through the same as many, thought I was bisexual, then pansexual (if I feel the same attraction towards everyone it means I like everyone right) then I learned asexuality was a thing so yeah
How often do you have doubts about being asexual?
Never, I have more doubts about my romantic inclinations
How long have you identified as asexual?
Since I was 14 at least
Have societal pressures ever made you question your own sexual desires or lack of it?
When I was younger yes, my own mother told me it was a made up thing and I would come around, im still ace so
Why do you think it’s difficult for some people to grasp the concept of asexuality?
Definitely, as I just said, my mother thought, and probably still thinks but won’t say it anymore, that being asexual is not a real thing, “everybody wants to have sex!!!” so yeah lmao
How did you start to come to terms with your asexuality?
Instantly, I knew that that’s what I was when I saw it and I’ve been always very comfortable with it
Has your understanding of asexuality shifted since you first learned about it?
Yes, at the beginning I thought it was mostly “doesn’t wanna have sex” and while I know now the definition is more akin to “doesn’t feel sexual attraction” the first definition still applies to me
What are things about asexuality you wish people understood better?
That’s just another sexuality like any other, no one is dying because of having no sex, it’s NOT a necessity, you won’t be a better person if you have sex omfg
Have you come out as asexual? If yes, how did you come out?
Just said it outright
How did you decide who to tell and who do you tell now when meeting new people?
Uhh if the convo comes out ig? I’m not gonna say like hi my name is X and I’m asexual!! lol but if someone asks or if we’re taking about sexualities I don’t mind saying it
How did people react to your coming out?
My mother told me it wasnt a real thing, surprisingly she was very normal about it when I told her about being a lesbian but not wanting to have sex was too much I guess
Friends don’t care and support me, im very open with sexual topics and I like consuming sexual content too so I mix well either way
The rest of my family doesn’t care either, my sisters are very supportive too
What’s something you wish you had known about asexuality before coming out ?
I just wish I had a better idea of what being asexual meant, makes me wonder if I could’ve won some arguments with people telling me about how I needed to have sex and all that
How has being asexual affected your relationships?
I’ve mostly had long distance relationships so it didn’t affect much, my last girlfriend was asexual too
Have you been romantically involved with people who aren’t asexual?
Yes, but I was very young and it was mostly long distance so nothing really happened
Do you prefer to be romantically involved with fellow asexuals?
100%
How do you feel about society over-sexualizing almost everything?
I don’t care, I enjoy sexual content, I like watching fictional characters I like having sex and being sexy, I enjoy sexy things in general, not a big issue for me, I think the only thing that makes me uncomfortable is when my own mother makes sexual jokes that involve me but that’s like a very personal thing so I don’t think it counts
What are your thoughts on having kids? Do you plan to have kids someday?
No, I don’t like kids
Do you consider yourself to be part of the LGBTQIA+ community?
Yes
Do you identify as queer? If not, how do you identify?
I don’t think much about it, queer is fine or whatever but I’m not from a English speaking country so it doesn’t sound natural to me, I just consider myself gay and that’s about it
Are you religious? If so, how does your faith and queerness work together?
No
How do you think your experiences through life may or may not have influenced/shaped your asexuality?
I think my mother is very hypersexual so I think me being sex-negative when I was younger might have to do with that, my asexuality on itself not really, I just don’t feel sexual attraction, nowadays I’m very sex-positive so I don’t think it matters anymore
How do you feel about how asexuality is perceived in the LGBTQIA+ community?
Im not sure, I would need to see how it’s perceived first
Have you experienced discrimination in the LGBTQIA+ community?
With some exclus ig
What bothers you in the LGBTQIA+ community?
The gatekeeping, it has become very weird how now everyone is against each other and we’re competing to see who is more oppressed lmao
Have you ever been to a pride parade? How did it go?
Yes, didn’t like it much, but because I’m not good in social events, it was fine.
What are your thoughts on labels?
You can use whatever u want
How do you feel about representation of asexuality in media?
There’s not much and the characters that are canonically asexual are boring/cringe as hell
What’d you like to say to people who question asexuality as a sexual orientation?
That maybe they should mind their business?? ?
What effects does being asexual have on your life?
I’m not having sex so I don’t have to spend hours shaving for it like most girls I talk with lmaoo
How do you deal with people who are curious about your sexuality?
Just tell them what they wanna know if they’re really curious
How do you deal with aphobia?
Ignore it
What was the most difficult moment in your life surrounding being asexual?
Having to live with my super hypersexual mother ig but that’s a daily struggle
What stereotypes about asexuality do you not relate to?
Most of them, and even within the community itself, it seems like all of them are 12 years old and it can get a little bit annoying
What questions do you wish people would stop asking you?
If I had sex
How involved would you say you are with the asexual community?
Not a lot, the things I see are already kinda childish and I just cannot vibe there, not to speak about how much yall like to antagonize allos for no reason
What are things that most asexual people can relate to?
Not feeling sexual attraction I’m guessing
How often do you meet other asexual people?
Lately I’ve been meeting a lot randomly, when I was younger it was super rare for me
How do you recognise other asexual people irl?
If they wear an asexual flag maybe?? There’s not an “asexual look”
What are your thoughts on queer-baiting?
It’s a real thing, but also people don’t fucking know what words mean anymore, just because two characters you like don’t end up together that’s not queer baiting ? and real people cannot queerbait you omg
Give a message to the queer community
Stop using tiktok thank youuuu