What does being polysexual mean to you?
Having the option to be attracted to some or most genders, but not all… also affirming genders that I’m attracted to.
Do you have gender preferences?
Feminine types, including female bodybuilders
What genders are you attracted to?
Ciswomen/Transwomen, Femboys/Enbys
What are your thoughts on gender?
No opinion, just be cool and straight up with me
How important is gender identity in your attraction to other people?
Somewhat important
Are you monogamous or non-monogamous?
Non monogamous
Do you find that people think polysexuality and polyamory mean the same thing?
All the time
Do you find that people think polysexuality and pansexuality mean the same thing?
All the time
How does your experience of polysexuality relate to your gender?
LGBTQ community assumes I’m a straight guy look to explore a taboo or just to hook up with a trans.
How did you first discover polysexuality?
Make out session with a Transwoman, also received oral from a femboy
How did you come to realise that you were polysexual?
By the constant attraction to more than just ciswomen
How often do you doubt your sexuality?
No doubt, just suppressing…. heteronormative marriage!
How long have you identified as polysexual?
2yrs
Have societal pressures ever made you question/suppress your sexuality?
My marriage, enough said!
Why do you think it’s difficult for some people to grasp the concept of polysexuality?
Because it’s not widely discussed or accepted within the LGBTQ community
How do you feel about people assuming polysexuals are innately promiscuous?
It’s f’kin sucks, everybody assumes and I’m tired of it.
Why do you think so many people have such harsh judgements against people who identify as polysexual?
Because it’s something foreign and not discussed
How did you start to come to terms with your sexuality?
Therapy and support groups
What was the moment where you fully came to terms with your sexuality?
An LGBTQ birthday party
Has your understanding of polysexuality shifted since you first learned about it?
No
What are things about polysexuality you wish people understood better?
That it’s fluid and not absolute…
Have you come out as polysexual? If yes, how did you come out?
Yes, Facebook page cover photo
How did you decide who to tell and who do you tell now when meeting new people?
If it comes up, I’ll tell but it’s nobody’s business
How did people react to your coming out?
They didn’t know how to react
How has being polysexual affected your relationships?
No trust with my wife
What are your thoughts on dating apps?
It’s for young folks
What are your thoughts on having kids? Do you plan to have kids someday?
Got 2 girls, got a vasectomy too
Are you religious? If so, how does your faith and queerness work together?
Not religious anymore
What effects does being polysexual have on your life?
Attraction to Transwomen makes my wife feel threatened
Do you consider yourself to be part of the LGBTQIA+ community?
Yes and no
Do you identify as queer? If not, how do you identify?
Bisexual, since it’s the bigger umbrella
How do you feel about how polysexuality is perceived in the LGBTQIA+ community?
It doesn’t exist
Have you experienced discrimination in the LGBTQIA+ community?
All the time
What bothers you in the LGBTQIA+ community?
Most people are absolute in their sexuality, gay=gay, lesbian=lesbian, etc.
Have you ever been to a pride parade? How did it go?
Yes, I got to sport my colors and flag
Do you agree that pride month is necessary?
Yes
What are your thoughts about “ally” being added to the LGBTQIA+ acronym?
Much needed
What are your thoughts on labels?
It’s getting ridiculous, but it’s needed
How has having the polysexual label benefited you?
I can pick and choose what gender I want to be with
How do you feel about representation of polysexuality in media?
Doesn’t exist
What’d you like to say to people who question polysexuality as a sexual orientation?
Stop assuming
What was the most difficult moment in your life surrounding being polysexual?
Telling my wife
How do you deal with people who are curious about your sexuality?
Ask them if they’re attracted to me and if they want to more
How do you deal with unfair/mean comments about your sexuality?
Let them talk
What stereotypes about polysexuals do you not relate to?
Being promiscuous and sleeping with anyone who will spread their cheeks
What stereotypes about polysexuals do you relate to?
Attraction to other genders
What are misconceptions about polysexuality?
It’s just like pan, or polyam
What questions do you wish people would stop asking you?
Do I like dick or pussy.?…
How involved would you say you are with the polysexual community?
On the subreddit for us
How often do you meet other polysexuals?
I don’t, it’s a very small community
How do you recognise other polysexual people irl?
The attraction to other genders in public
How do you meet and connect with fellow polysexuals?
Do you think sexuality , romantic attraction and gender identity are things that people are born with, influenced by upbringing, or both?
Of course
What would you like people to know about polysexuality?
That we have options