Reddit u/Tikarok
What does being bigender mean to you?
Best of both worlds?
What are your thoughts on the concept of gender?
Too many people make too big a deal of it.
Do you think society as a whole would function differently if no one was assigned a gender at birth?
Probably
What are your genders?
Male and Female
Are you any gender more often than the other? Or prefer being a certain gender over the other?
Outwards, to the world I’m mostly male presenting. But I have no preference
Do you generally experience being both genders at once? Or is it generally one gender at a time with no control over when they manifest?
My gender is like a coin; one side is male, one is female, both sides are 100 % their own thing and seperated from each other but still part of the same whole that is me.
Is it simple as identifying as two genders simultaneously? Or are the identities two different personas?
I am me, my bigenderness is part of me.
Do you identify as genderflux?
Sometimes, I don’t feel my identity flucuates, but sometimes I’ll have a stronger urge to present or feel like one.
Do you consider yourself non-binary?
No. I consider myself VERY binary. So binary that I have the two extremes of the spectrum.
Do you consider yourself transgender?
Yes
Do you plan on transitioning in any way? Name change, pronouns, surgery etc…
No
What are your preferred pronouns and how did you decide?
I’ve always been comfortable with he/him that i was assigned at birth, and I am also comfortable with she/her. Not comfortable with they/them
How strict are you with making sure people use your preferred pronouns and how vital are they to easing dysphoria?
Everyone calls me he/him, and I don’t have a problem with that
How soon after meeting someone do you explain your gender identity and ask them to use your preferred pronouns?
If I know them well, I might explain it to someone. No pronoun change is really needed,so that’s not a factor
What are your thoughts on dead naming?
It’s horrible
What is your preferred honorific?
No preference I guess?
How would you describe your sexual orientation?
Demisexual, and I like girls/women. Since I’m not out to most of the world about my gender identity, I just say I’m straigth, which… from the perspective of my male side IS technically true. And I also think of myself as lesbian. I like to joke to myself that I am straigth lesbian, and a lesbian man.
Did understanding your gender change your understanding of your sexuality?
Change as in, made it harder to label
Are you monogamous or non-monogamous?
Monogamous, probably. I’ve never been in a relationship, though, so I guess In can’t really know, but I think I would probably be monogamous.
What is your gender expression?
I present mostly male to the world
Do you feel dysphoria? What is dysphoria like for you?
I sometimes wish I had a feminine body, but I don’t resent my masculine one.
How often do you have doubts about your gender identity?
A few times a year, I guess. They don’t last long usually.
How did you first discover bigender?
I was questioning if I might be a trans woman. But I could never fully identify with that, since while I did often feel feminine, and wanted to be a woman, I also was totally fine with and even like being a man. So I decided, on my own, coming up with the term without having heard of it anywhere, to start called myself Bigender, as that felt right for me. Later found out other people were also using that word, so that felt very validating.
How did you come to realise that you were bigender?
I was questioning if I might be a trans woman. But I could never fully identify with that, since while I did often feel feminine, and wanted to be a woman, I also was totally fine with and even like being a man. So I decided, on my own, coming up with the term without having heard of it anywhere, to start called myself Bigender, as that felt right for me. Later found out other people were also using that word, so that felt very validating.
How did it change how you lived your life, if it did at all?
Nothing has changed, really.
How long have you identified as bigender?
Since late 2019
Have societal pressures ever made you question/suppress your bigender identity?
Maybe
Why do you think it’s difficult for some people to grasp the concept of bigender?
People are think too much in black and white
Has your understanding of bigender shifted since you first learned about it?
A little. But not much
Have you come out as bigender? If yes, how did you come out?
I’ve come out to my siblings, a few friends and I’m partially out to some others. Sometimes I wonder if my siblings even remember it, because nothing has really changed between us, and the subject has never come up again
How did people react to your coming out?
The ones I’ve come out to have all bee supportive
What’s the hardest part about coming out?
Thinking people won’t really believe I tall bearded man, is also a woman
What is dating and finding a romantic partner like?
No idea
What are your thoughts on dating apps?
I’m demisexual, and finding random strangers through apps and stuff is not appealing to me
What is it like filling legal forms about gender?
I will usually fill in “choose not to say” or “other” or something similar if that is an option. If it isin’t I’ll say Male
What is it like using public restrooms?
No problems
Does sexism affect your life in any way?
Sexism affects everyone’s life, and it sucks
What are your thoughts on having kids? Do you plan to have kids someday?
I love kids, and want to have kids one day
If you were to have kids someday, what would you like them to refer you as?
Dad is fine
Have you ever being forced to pick a gender?
I don’t understand exactly what this question means
What are your thoughts on skoliosexuality (attraction to any gender or nongender that isn’t cisgender)?
Good for those who identify as that. I personally don’t
Do you consider yourself to be part of the LGBTQIA+ community?
Mostly yes
Do you identify as queer? If not, how do you identify?
Kinda
Are you religious? If so, how does your faith and queerness work together?
I believe in some sort of higher power, and that might be a god or just positive energy of people. I believe in souls. I think Jesus Christ was an admirable person who sadly many christians are not living up to. My religious views have no impact on my (kinda) queerness.
How do you feel about how bigender is perceived in the LGBTQIA+ community?
No clue
Do you agree that pride month is necessary?
Yes
What are your thoughts about “ally” being added to the LGBTQIA+ acronym?
A is for Asexuality.
What are your thoughts on labels?
They’re neat
Do you think that some of the misconceptions comes from the idea that gender and sex are the same thing?
Probablt
A kid asks if you are a boy or a girl, respond.
None of your biz
How do you deal with people who are curious about your bigender identity?
Try to encourage sometimes, but not be pushy about it? I guess?
What are the most annoying things people have said to you about being bigender?
Someone assumed it also meant I was attracted to men.
What would you like to say to anyone who is bigender or wondering if they are?
I hope you figure it out, and whether you are or not, you’re valid
How involved would you say you are with the bigender community?
Very little
Do you think sexuality, romantic attraction and gender identity are things that people are born with, influenced by upbringing, or both?
Born
What’s it like being queer in your country/society?
Probably the best in the world, but even then, still not perfect, and still ways to go.
How have you been subjected to queerphobia?
No
What would you like to say to queerphobic people?
To those willing to listen: “Thank you” To those too stubborn to change their views: “FUCK OFF”
What are some of your favorite pieces of media with authentic representation everyone should watch?
Does that exist?
Who are your favorite bigender celebrities or characters?
Are there any?
Give a message to the queer community
Love you people!