What does being bigender mean to you?

Being bigender means primarily identifying with two genders at once.

What are your thoughts on the concept of gender?

Gender is a thing that exists and people do experience it. For me, I just get to experience it squared.

Do you think society as a whole would function differently if no one was assigned a gender at birth?

Society would be completely rewritten if genders weren’t assigned at birth and it is starting to be rewritten.

What are your genders?

Male and Female

Are you any gender more often than the other? Or prefer being a certain gender over the other?

No

Do you generally experience being both genders at once? Or is it generally one gender at a time with no control over when they manifest?

I do though I describe it as having both the male and female faders at 100% all the time. neither one takes over the other.

Is it simple as identifying as two genders simultaneously? Or are the identities two different personas?

I identify as two genders simultaneously.

Do you identify as genderflux?

No

Do you consider yourself non-binary?

I don’t identify as non-binary as I still fall into the binary genders.

Do you consider yourself transgender?

Yes and No. I’m not really transitioning to a new gender but rather trying to become a second one simultaneously.

Do you plan on transitioning in any way? Name change, pronouns, surgery etc…

My hope is to though do or don’t will depend on other factors.

What are your preferred pronouns and how did you decide?

He/She/They. Those are just the most common ones. It doesn’t matter what someone refers to me as because it’s all correct.

How strict are you with making sure people use your preferred pronouns and how vital are they to easing dysphoria?

It isn’t a matter of making sure but rather striking a balance. There are some people that only use He, others only She, and some flip flop between the two or go neutral. It only triggers dysphoria if it becomes too one sided for too long.

How soon after meeting someone do you explain your gender identity and ask them to use your preferred pronouns?

It doesn’t usually matter for a long while after and those that do meet me tend to be split 50/50 as to if I go by he or she at first meet.

What are your thoughts on dead naming?

There are a limited few people allowed to use it (some because I’m not out to them). Otherwise it’s a no go zone.

What is your preferred honorific?

Just my name.

How would you describe your sexual orientation?

I’m bisexual in that I like both guys and galls (and non-binary palls) though no matter who I date, it’d be both straight and gay at the same time.

Did understanding your gender change your understanding of your sexuality?

It changed my understanding but not my sexuality.

Are you monogamous or non-monogamous?

Eh… depends.

What is your gender expression?

Neutral (or I try to go for that)

Do you feel dysphoria? What is dysphoria like for you?

I do feel dysphoria though it’s difficult to describe it.

How often do you have doubts about your gender identity?

Never

How did you first discover bigender?

I actually don’t remember. All I know is that it was something on the internet

How did you come to realise that you were bigender?

In two waves. The first one was presently not being content with either male or female and the second one was remembering fantasies I had as a kid wanting to be both a boy and a girl.

How did it change how you lived your life, if it did at all?

It hasn’t changed a whole lot due to keeping it hidden from certain people though there are some things that I want to change when I can.

How long have you identified as bigender?

With the term… a few years. Generally… forever.

Have societal pressures ever made you question/suppress your bigender identity?

I don’t think it has though I could be wrong.

Why do you think it’s difficult for some people to grasp the concept of bigender?

Well, even today it’s one, the other, or neither for the most part. Those are the most popular options. Plus, for some people it’s like a point of uncertainty.

How did you start to come to terms with your bigender identity?

Jaz Jennings of all people and how it’s okay to not feel like you’re the right gender.

What was the moment where you fully came to terms with your bigender identity?

It was when I learned of the term bigender.

Has your understanding of bigender shifted since you first learned about it?

Nope.

What are things about bigender you wish people understood better?

It doesn’t matter. Male and female is okay so just go with whatever you think is correct.

Have you come out as bigender? If yes, how did you come out?

The main coming out was in my drama class. It started with a couple people coming out as trans, then another joined, and I just decided that it was the best time to come out. After that was a matter of letting individual people know.

How did you decide who to tell and who do you tell now when meeting new people?

Only those that I felt/feel need to know and those are mainly those I interact with regularly. Otherwise the interaction isn’t enough to require it.

How did people react to your coming out?

Mainly neutral.

What’s something you wish you had known about bigender before coming out ?

That most people don’t know what it is and that I’d have to explain it to everyone I came out to.

What’s the hardest part about coming out?

Explaining what bigender is and how it works.

What is dating and finding a romantic partner like?

Don’t know. Haven’t found the right person yet.

What are your thoughts on dating apps?

No Bueno. I’d personally rather meet someone by coincidence.

How has being bigender affected your relationships?

It hasn’t affected any of my relationships.

What is it like filling legal forms about gender?

Let’s just say I look forward to not having to swing the one way I have to now.

What is it like using public restrooms?

I just use the men’s because meh. I’m fine going into the women’s but if someone’s in there I’m scared they’d yell at me.

What are your thoughts on having kids? Do you plan to have kids someday?

I’d love to have kids. Personally I’d like to bear my own though adoption is currently the only option.

If you were to have kids someday, what would you like them to refer you as?

Mom and Dad are okay but Flint would be the best.

Have you ever being forced to pick a gender?

Yes, I didn’t like it, and I’m glad that I haven’t had to in a while.

What are your thoughts on skoliosexuality (attraction to any gender or nongender that isn’t cisgender)?

So long as the person you’re dating is okay with you liking them because they’re non-cis then it’s okay. If it causes them stress and dysphoria then might not be the right person for you.

Do you consider yourself to be part of the LGBTQIA+ community?

Yep! Even have a sticker on my laptop to prove it.

Do you identify as queer? If not, how do you identify?

I don’t because I feel like I’m not non-cis enough to.

Are you religious? If so, how does your faith and queerness work together?

I am non-religious (like, not even atheist or anything like that)

How do you think your experiences through life may or may not have influenced/shaped your bigender identity?

I don’t think that they have as I’ve always known that being one way or the other felt half empty, or like I was only being half my self.

Have you experienced discrimination in the LGBTQIA+ community?

No, I haven’t.

Have you ever been to a pride parade? How did it go?

Haven’t as my community’s to small to have one

Do you agree that pride month is necessary?

Only because there’s still work that needs to be done to allow those that fall into it to be safe.

What are your thoughts about “ally” being added to the LGBTQIA+ acronym?

Isn’t that what the A already stands for? Either way, they’re a vital part of the community so they do deserve some recognition.

How has having the bigender label benefited you?

It gives me a grounding in knowing that it’s a real thing and not just something I’m experiencing.

How do you feel about representation of bigender in media?

I don’t think there is or needs to be. If a character did come out as bigender then cool but don’t stereotype it.

What would you like to say to people who question bigender as a gender identity?

It’s a thing that exists and effects only the person that identifies with it. I can be male or female in your head and it still works.

Do you think that some of the misconceptions comes from the idea that gender and sex are the same thing?

There is some as people will sometimes think of intersex as being the same as bigender.

A kid asks if you are a boy or a girl, respond.

Yes

How do you deal with people who are curious about your bigender identity?

I let them ask their questions and answer the best I can.

What was the most difficult moment in your life surrounding being bigender?

Finding the word! Not joking, I had come up with my own term to describe it long before I found the word I was looking for.

What are misconceptions about being bigender?

Being bigender means you’re non-binary. To me, non-binary can be one of the genders you identify as if you’re bigender.

What are things to NOT say to a bigender person?

Can’t you just pick one?

What would you like to say to anyone who is bigender or wondering if they are?

Are or aren’t it’s okay. Take your time in figuring it out and if you think you’re more genderfluid then that’s okay.

How involved would you say you are with the bigender community?

Little to none.

What are things you love about being bigender, or being part of the bigender community?

Answering if I’m a boy or a girl because I always answer with, “Yes.”

What are things that most bigender people can relate to?

Not wanting to choose male over female and vice versa.

How often do you meet other bigender people?

Only me so far.

How do you recognise other bigender people irl?

It’s difficult as they can blend in with almost any gender group.

Do you think sexuality, romantic attraction and gender identity are things that people are born with, influenced by upbringing, or both?

Bit of both though as studies on the topic are not that good, I can’t say.

What’s it like being queer in your country/society?

You’re just a normal person.

Give a message to the queer community

Keep on being the you and being awesome!

Tell your story, opinions, experiences.

Back when I was 5, I had a lot of knowledge about both boys and girls but there was one question that I always had. So, I went to the one person I knew had knowledge of the human body, my mom, and asked if it was possible for a boy to become a girl and vice versa. I would have been better off not asking as the next few hours was her scolding me on how I didn’t want to be the opposite sex any why I didn’t want to be the opposite sex.