What does being fictosexual mean to you?

Being ficto means you’re in love with a character(s).

How do your relationships differ from 3D relationships? In what ways are they similar?

I prefer fictional folk to real folk in general. I’m also more used to the fict dating style. I see them both as beings

What activities help you bond with your fictional other?

Daydreaming, talking and outings to name a few

How do you express love for your partner?

I express my love in the same way any other couple would.

Are you only or mostly attracted to fictional characters?

I occasionally have a crush on a non-fict human, but it’s mainly toons that I love.

How did you meet your fictional other (partner)?

My current S/O’s a character that I created

Do you plan to take things further, e.g engagement, marriage someday?

I’m not currently into marriage and won’t have any kids, but I plan to do other more creative things, such as making them a series of some type.

How did you first discover fictosexuality?

I found the term for being fict online

How did you come to realise that you were fictosexual?

It was through a dream with my first partner, a sweet short kiss and the first time that I fell in love.

How long have you identified as fictosexual?

8 years

Have societal pressures ever made you question/suppress your sexuality?

It used to be when I wasn’t out. But I’m pretty open about myself now that I’m not in the closet anymore.

How does your experience of fictosexuality relate to your gender?

It doesn’t

Why do you think it’s difficult for some people to grasp the concept of fictosexuality?

Because dating a flesh and blood human is the norm, it’s sort of like how being hetero and cis are also the norm.

How did you start to come to terms with your sexuality?

I got older and left that “perfect” Christian lifestyle everyone seems to have about life. I’m happy that I don’t want to be like the “normal folk”, unlike this question implies

Has your understanding of fictosexuality shifted since you first learned about it?

I used only to be fict when I started this journey. But I’ve also grown to love things like my objectum side.

What are things about fictosexuality you wish people understood better?

It’s not wrong to be ficto; it has never been. Also, anyone can be fict.

Have you come out as fictosexual? If yes, how did you come out?

I’ve come out to a few people and will soon come out to my dad. I say it aloud to folk, and if they don’t like it, they can bugger off.

How did you decide who to tell and who do you tell now when meeting new people?

Anyone who I believe is a good person and not a stranger. If they ask, I’ll tell them.

How did people react to your coming out?

I’ve got a few confused responses, but there’s mostly been support.

What’s the hardest part about coming out?

Like any other coming out, it’s the response.

Have you been in non-fictoromantic relationships?

No

Would you date someone who is also fictosexual?

Sure, I’m open to a poly relationship

What are your thoughts on having kids? Do you plan to have kids someday?

I’m pro-adoption but an antinatalist who would prefer an animal in the traditional sense. I’ve got a son from a previous relationship, and I’m currently not looking for more in the fict mind.

Are you religious? If so, how does your faith and queerness work together?

I’m an atheist, and it’s uncommon for my religion to become involved, but one of my past partners has passed away.

How do you think your experiences through life may or may not have influenced/shaped your sexuality?

The more I’ve accepted myself, the easier the labels have come to me.

Do you consider yourself to be part of the LGBTQIA+ community?

I’m the B and Q; I’m also Agender, but I don’t consider myself asexual.

Do you identify as queer? If not, how do you identify?

Yes

How do you feel about visibility of fictosexuality in the LGBTQIA+ community?

It’s excellent for ficts to get included

Have you experienced discrimination in the LGBTQIA+ community?

Yes, but not personally

What bothers you in the LGBTQIA+ community?

Fict-wise, the label gets included in the ace community. I believe it’s aphobic to do so

Have you ever been to a pride parade? How did it go?

Yes, they’re quite fun

Do you agree that pride month is necessary?

Yes

What are your thoughts about “ally” being added to the LGBTQIA+ acronym?

Allies aren’t part of the acronym

What are your thoughts on labels?

You do you

How do you feel about representation of fictosexuality in media?

I hate it, the characters get forced to break up at the end, or the fict partner is shown to be evil.

How do you deal with people who are curious about your sexuality?

I explain whatever I can to them

How do you deal with unfair/mean comments about your sexuality?

report them

What was the most difficult moment in your life surrounding being fictosexual?

So far, having to deal with everything that happened between my phobic mother and I

What stereotypes about fictosexuality do you not relate to?

I’m not a male, nor have I dated anyone from japan (I’ve mainly dated Americans). I own my own house and don’t fall under the obese category. I don’t own any giant pillows.

What stereotypes about fictosexuality do you relate to?

I like anime a bit; I love collecting merch. I’ve also gotten into mlp as of recently, but I’m not a zoo. Also, I wouldn’t say I like cleaning too much but it’s not to the point where everything’s filthy.

What are the most annoying things people have said to you about fictosexuality?

It doesn’t exist

What are misconceptions about fictosexuality?

It’s only men dating fict women.

What are things to NOT say to a fictosexual person?

You want to do something terrible to them or their partner if you’re unhappy with a relationship. Telling them that you shouldn’t date someone when the relationship in question wouldn’t get the same response if it weren’t fict.

What would you like to say to anyone who is fictosexual or wondering if they are?

Go at your own pace, and don’t listen to the phobes. You’re perfect being you

How involved would you say you are with the fictosexual community?

I run a blog and have written a mini-story about being fict. I can also be found on Reddit sometimes, but I wouldn’t recommend the two central communities.

What are things you love about being fictosexual, or being part of the fictosexual community?

My partner, answering questions and being different.

What’d you like to say to people who question fictosexuality as a sexual orientation?

The norm is that it’s only gendered; there’s a lot more to that, such as species and age, in my opinion.

What are things that most fictosexual people can relate to?

Their love for their partners and liking media

How often do you meet other fictosexual people?

not often

How do you recognise other fictosexual people irl?

I don’t

How do you meet and connect with fellow fictosexual people?

Online

Do you think sexuality , romantic attraction and gender identity are things that people are born with, influenced by upbringing, or both?

It’s something you’re born with

What’s it like being queer in your country/society?

My area’s pretty LGBT+ friendly; primarily, Christians and older folk are against the idea.

How have you been subjected to queerphobia?

Online

What would you like to say to queerphobic people?

You suck

How can people be better allies to fictosexual people?

by listening

What are some of your favorite pieces of media with authentic representation everyone should watch?

Where Is Anne Frank

What are your thoughts on queer-baiting?

I hate it