Why didn’t your parents have more kids?
Weren’t together, unable to afford, mom had tubes tied and simply didn’t want more children
Were your parents contented with one child or did they want more?
They didn’t want any lol
Did your parents feel pressured to have more kids?
No
How was growing up as an only child like? What was your childhood like?
Lonely, always “mature for my age” due to most socializing being with adults
Did you at some point, wish you had siblings?
Yes
Did your parents have “the talk” with you about why you’re an only child?
No
Did you ever lie about having siblings?
Yes
Seeing most people with siblings, how do you cope?
Don’t have a specific coping mechanism
Do you feel lonely sometimes? Would it be better if you had a sibling?
Yes and I believe so
Do you feel left out when people talk about their siblings?
Yes
Are you an Introvert, ambivert or extrovert?
Ambivert
Are your parents overprotective?
In some ways for some time, complicated to answer
Did being an only child affect your social skills?
Absolutely
Is it easy for you to make friends?
No
Do you consider your friends your siblings?
No
Do you want kids?If so, would you like to have an only child?
No
Does being an only child sometimes affect your decisions?
No
How has being an only child affected your life, or how is being an only child affecting your life?
Lack confidence and social skills, ostracized from abusive family, gaslit with no one to see what was really happening, hard to form bonds and establish healthy boundaries
Growing up, how was your relationship with your parents?
Absent father, abuse and neglect from mother
How is your relationship with your parents now?
No contact
What effect does being an only child have on your romantic relationships?
Hard to relate with very different experiences growing up (only vs eldest of 2, impoverished vs well off)
What effect does being an only child have on your career?
Unsure
What are the biggest misconceptions about only children?
Spoiled
Do you get along well with adults?
Mostly
Do you do well with kids?
Mostly
Are you spoiled?If so, in what ways?
No
Do you sometimes feel like your parents put up with you because they don’t have a choice?
Yes
When was it the most hard being an only child, in adolescent or adulthood?
Adolescence
When did you start to like being an only child?
I never have liked being an only
How do people react when you tell them that you’re an only child?
“Oh so you’re a weirdo” facts tho
What fears do you have, that stem from being an only child?
Fear of abandonment and anxious attachment style, however they are bother exacerbated by other contributing factors
In what scenarios do you feel that being an only child is an issue?
Being raised in an abusive household where there’s no one to bond with or feel safe with
How do you feel about your birthday? Growing up, how did you celebrate birthdays? How do you celebrate birthdays now?
I hate my birthday, parents didn’t put any effort into socialization with other children so had a few birthday parties where no one came. I celebrate birthdays alone mostly, I cry every year and mourn lost time
Do you talk to yourself?
Yes
Did you / do you have imaginary friends?
No
Which of these things is the most important to you? Privacy, companionship, alone time, attention.
Companionship
Who did you blame when you did something wrong as a kid?
Unsure
What do you miss most about being a kid?
The world felt much bigger and I was more hopeful for my future
What do you think is your best personality trait?
I’m very loyal and empathetic
What do you think is your worst personality trait?
Unable to manage emotions
Do you enjoy being the center of attention?
Sometimes
Have you always been a good kid?
No
What life skills do you have, thanks to being an only child?
Survival, been doing things on my own and taking care of myself since a very young age
Do you think being an only child affects mental health? If so, how?
Yes – negatively in my experience
What stereotypes about only children do you not relate to?
Being spoiled
What stereotypes about only children do you relate to?
Being weird, unable to relate and socialize with others
What about sibling-ship makes you glad that you’re an only child?
Competition
What are things to NOT say to an only child?
Unsure
Do you think that there are few only children, compared to people with siblings?
Yes
Do you feel the pressure to be perfect?
Yes
What are the most only child things about you?
Independent
Do you sometimes worry about your parents, because you’re their only child?
No – but I have an atypical (non)relationship with them
Do you feel obligated to take care of our parents when they get old?
No
What advice do you have for parents of an only child?
Have a second child
What are the disadvantages of being an only child?
Mental and social development, loneliness
What are the advantages of being an only child?
No one to compare and compete with
Do you love or hate being an only child?
Hate
If you had a choice, would you choose to be an only child?
Absolutely not
Growing up, did you have pets? Do you still have pets?
No, i do now though