Why didn’t you have more kids?
I was firmly a “no kid” person until my partner said it was a part of his life he didn’t want to miss out on. I decided I was happy with having one.
Did you ever feel pressured to have more kids?
Earlier in my life, yes. Now, no.
Have you had “the talk” with your child about why they’re an only child?
No. Too young.
How does your child feel about being an only child?
Indifferent. My child is surrounded by loving adults and peers who he loves.
How’s your relationship with your child?
Very good.
What effects does having one child have on your relationship with your child? What do you think would be different if you had more kids?
I would not be able to focus on his quality of life or his education as much as I’d want to.
How would you describe your style of parenting?
Gentle, with a touch of authoritarian. Just enough to help teach humility and gratitude. By and large, we teach patience and good communication, and that pays dividends.
In what ways do you think parenting one child differs from parenting multiple children?
The focus changes from a granularly curated experience to an average of experiences. Money and time are more scarce.
Are you overprotective of your child?
No.
How do you celebrate your child’s birthdays?
With friends, family, and a homemade cake.
What are your thoughts on “Only Child Syndrome”?
I think it is nonsense.
What are things about having multiple kids that you’re glad you don’t have to deal with?
Fighting. Resources stretched thin. Time away from my partner.
What effects does having one child have on your life (career, family e.t.c)?
Both my partner and I are able to have a successful career.
What are the most annoying things that people have said to you about having one child?
“They’ll be lonely!” “They will be spoiled!”
How do you deal with unsolicited/annoying comments from people?
I shut them down by letting them know I’ve made my choice, and my choice is private. Or, if they are particularly rude, I may fabricate a story about being infertile.
What are things to NOT say to parents with one child?
“You are selfish for not having another.”
What are your fears that stem from having one child?
I worry about dying and leaving him alone.
What are disadvantages of having one child?
I don’t think there are any disadvantages.
What are advantages of having one child?
Focus. More resources. Ability to maintain a career.
What would you like to say to parents of only children?
Live the life that feels right to you.
What would you like to say to only children?
Love your family, but remember you can grow your family with the family you choose.
What’s your general outlook on having one child?
Very positive. I did the right thing.