Why didn’t your parents have more kids?
Good question. One of the reasons was my birth giver was 40 at the time and my old man was a ummm old man ( 45 ) Plus you can’t control and brainwash more than one child can you? Hence why NORMAL families have 6.
Were your parents content with one child or did they want more?
See above? In truth my birth giver ( notice how I don’t call her mother? ) didn’t want any and was forced into it by daddy dearest because he wanted a new toy to play with for the next few decades. People who WANT children don’t wait till they are fifty and everyone of their own family is dead.
Did your parents feel pressured to have more kids?
Ummmm no.
What was growing up as an only child like? What was your childhood like?
Oh my God, there wouldn’t be enough words in the world to answer that one I’m afraid. Every day, even now at my age I look back and wonder if it’s all been an insanely long nightmare for which I’m yet to wake from.
Childhood? I either never had one or it never ended, again I can’t really tell you because I’ve never been able to figure it out myself. Crazy I know but there it is.
Did/do you have imaginary friends?
I had no friends, imaginary or otherwise.
Did you at some point, wish you had siblings?
Does a bear…..
Yes. every day I grieve for the sister that could have saved my life, she could have changed everything, she still could, but she has never and will never exist, her win was my loss….
Did your parents have “the talk” with you about why you’re an only child?
They did not, or ANY other kind of talk for that matter. Sex was NEVER once discussed by either. That was the schools job, apparently.
Did you ever lie about having siblings?
To who? My non existent friends? So no. Do I lie now? Sometimes, yes, just to pretend to feel normal just for a fleeting millisecond.
Seeing most people with siblings, how do you cope?
Badly. Very badly. As one would expect when one is a member of the smallest minority in HUMAN HISTORY, because and you need to understand THIS. Almost EVERY person who has ever or will ever walk this Earth has, had, will have siblings. Then there is ME.
Do you feel lonely sometimes? Would it be better if you had a sibling?
Every second of every minute of every hour of every day of every week of every month of every year of every decade.
Are you an introvert, ambivert or extrovert?
Surprise surprise I’m an introvert. I wonder how THAT happened eh? It’s a total mystery to me, I just can’t understand how someone alone 99 percent of the time wouldn’t be the life and soul of the party. No idea how that could ever possibly have happened. Strange isn’t it?
Are your parents overprotective?
Does a bear…..
Child Abuse are the words you are looking for. Because that’s what it is. This world doesn’t take prisoners. So you better be damn well sure you are ready to face it head on cause if you aren’t, well…………………
Imagine being asked to fight a war and given a pea shooter to do it while everyone else is given a Nuclear Tank.
Did being an only child affect your social skills?
Yeah a little bit you could say. Doesn’t mix much was an early report card comment from Jr School….
What’s your personality type?
Dark. Angry. Vengeful.
Is it easy for you to make friends?
Impossible. Thanks dad.
Do you consider your friends your siblings?
No
Do you want kids?If so, would you like to have an only child?
I’m a 100% Antinatalist so ZERO children here. Like most OC’s. ( the no kids part not so much the AN stuff… )
Does being an only child sometimes affect your decisions?
Probably all of them, but I know nothing else so….
Growing up, how was your relationship with your parents?
Stockholm Syndrome is a hellva drug right? That’s was what I was on 24/7, mainly with daddy of course as that’s the way he wanted it and what daddy wanted he got. What he didn’t want, like motorbikes on tables say or daughter in laws, he didn’t get.
How is your relationship with your parents now?
Both are dead and I curse them both Every. Single. Day, because i have to go on living with THEIR mistakes/abuse/lies/SS….
What did your parents do right and wrong, in raising an only child?
Literally EVERYTHING wrong. It’s like a textbook of how NOT to bring up anything, much less a child.
What effects does being an only child have on your life (relationships, career) e.t.c?
It ruined it. All of it. All… of… it….
What are your thoughts on “Only Child Syndrome”?
It’s very real. How can it not be. To be brought up as an alien on a planet of siblings, how can it not be? Quacks will tell you otherwise of course to placate parents who want to do what mine did, but the parents doing that AREN’T OC’s are they, as mine weren’t.
Growing up, did you get along well with older people?
I guess, since there sure wasn’t any young ones around me.
Do you do well with kids?
Hate them and also feel sorry for them, but mainly I hate them for having what I never did.
Are you spoiled? If so, in what ways?
Yeah sure I was spoiled. I had an extra teddy bear that little Jack didn’t, oh God I was so spoillllleedddd wasn’t I? Course little Jack now owns FIVE houses and is on his THIRD wife but hey I’m the bad guy, I had a teddy bear and he didn’t. Naughty, naughty Taylor!!!!!
When was it the most hard being an only child, childhood, adolescence or adulthood?
All of it really, it’s all just been one long nightmare that just won’t end. Other people die, I can’t even do that.
How do people react when you tell them that you’re an only child?
Same way they react when you tell them you old man was almost 50 when you turned up. The brain freezes in their heads. You can almost see the moment it happens as the words that came out of your mouth struggle to get processed by their ears.
How do you feel about your birthday? Growing up, how did you celebrate birthdays? How do you celebrate birthdays now?
I gave up birthdays a long time ago. I have never had anything to celebrate here.
Do you talk to yourself?
Oh yes, have too, always did even back then. Not like I could talk to my sister was it? Then or now.
Which of these things is the most important to you? Privacy, companionship, alone time, attention.
I’m tempted to pick companionship but it doesn’t really matter anymore, maybe it never did?
Even if I could go back I could never change not being an OC….
These days? A new start, memory erasure, joining a Monastery in Tibet… those are all that matter to me anymore.
Who did you blame when you did something wrong as a kid?
I didn’t do anything wrong. Daddy saw to that.
What do you miss most about being a kid?
Looking back? Nothing. I wasn’t happy then. I’m not happy now. Nothing has really changed.
What do you think is your best personality trait?
My honesty.
What do you think is your worst personality trait?
My hyper critical view of everything, even though it’s right.
Do you enjoy being the center of attention?
I wouldn’t know.
Have you always been a “good child”?
Sadly, yes. It got me NOWHERE.
REBEL KIDS, smack those parents back to the stone age where they belong!!!!!
What life skills do you have, thanks to being an only child?
None that I can think of. Unless you count ability to waste money or want to die every second as somehow good life skills?
Do you think being an only child affects mental health? If so, how?
Oh God, again there are now words, or rather there are but the internet would run out of them before I could finish.
Yes it effects MH. Of course it does. It pretty much ruins it like anything to do with being OC.
China, remember them? called time on their OC lark after just a few decades. That should tell you everything you need to know right there.
Look, let me make this as clear as I can. Being OC is a death sentence. It ruins any chance at life and it is a curse. People knew this to be true hundreds of years ago and it is as true today as it was then, as it will be in hundreds more years.
It should be outlawed as a crime because it is a crime and we it’s victims!!!!
What aspects of sibling-ship makes you glad that you’re an only child?
NONE.
Do you think that there are few only children, compared to people with siblings?
Ummmm hello? Worlds smallest minority in human history!!!! Throughout recorded and unrecorded time!!!!
Do you feel the pressure to be perfect?
Of course. I was never allowed to fail. That was always for others.
Do you think you worry more or less about your parents because you are an only child?
I used too, like the brainwashed fool I was/am.
Do you feel obligated to take care of your parents when they get old?
Again yes, that’s all part of the indoctrination process. Clever stuff, you gotta give em that. It’s clever stuff.
What are the most annoying things that people have said to you about being an only child?
The spoiled bit comes to mind….
What are things to NOT say to an only child?
My sister/brother….
What are the biggest misconceptions about only children?
Not sure there are any. Oh sure the media will make it all sound rosy but the TRUTH is all those guys in the 17th century saying it was an affront to life were in fact right, fancy that.
What are the most “only child things” about you?
Well lets see….
Not married…
No children…
Talks to self..
Probably insane…
Doesn’t mix much…
Has to be in control…
Can’t share..
Arrogant..
Thinks he knows it all ( but only because he does.. )
Doesn’t get the whole no I in team schitck. Not a team player in fact one could say.
What stereotypes about only children do you not relate to?
None, I’m literally textbook. Anyone who says they aren’t is lying. It’s that simple.
What fears do you have, that stem from being an only child?
We’d be here all day. Then again when you get a front row seat to watch the world around you burn away as your body does likewise very little fears remain after that I guess. Some people might say death but come on, he’d be a most welcome guest, too bad he’s always at someone else’s party. Having said that I HATE spiders and would personally wipe every last one of them from existence, but that might not have anything to do with being OC….
What are disadvantages of being an only child?
Everything. For real. It’s true. Everything and everyone is against you and you have ZERO back up, ZERO support, ZERO everything.
You are screwed at EVERY single aspect of life for ALL life.
It’s just the truth. It’s not my truth, I have to live this you think I want to be telling you this????
But it is the truth.
I could list ten thousand things here and we wouldn’t even have covered the first page. I wish I had the time and the internet had enough words to fully explain it all for you all, but the short version is everything and that’s just the truth.
What are advantages of being an only child?
There are NONE. ZERO. ZILCH. I’m sure others will tell you otherwise but the truth is there is not one advantage to being OC in life at all and believe me I’ve looked. There is nothing out there.
What advice do you have for parents of Only children?
Have another child.
What advice do you have for only children?
I’m sorry, I’m so, so sorry. For all that lies ahead for you. For all you will suffer. For all you will lose. And throughout it all you will face it alone. I’m sorry.
Growing up, did you have pets? Do you still have pets?
Yes and no, as in yes we had pets growing up and now I do not.
How do you feel about how Only Children are portrayed in media? What are your favorite pieces of media with authentic representation?
OC’s are very popular in fiction aren’t they, somewhat less popular in real life. I’m reminded of the French film Amelie was it? Where the OC girl had to settle for some lunatic BF because she just couldn’t be normal. How nice. I mean it was accurate but still…
What’s your general outlook on being an only child? If positive, when did you start to like being an only child?
It should never be allowed. Either you have a planet of siblings as we do now or you have a planet of OC’s. But trying to do both just doesn’t work, in truth a planet of OC’s wouldn’t work either. They’d probably blow it up or something, so yeah we need to get a siblings birthed by law rule.
You want kids, by law the minimum is TWO/ OC’s should not exist.
I mean they hardly do now so it’s not like it’s a huge loss is it?
Again this is just the truth, the truth few will tell you, but truth is truth, no one is asking people to like it, but there it is.
You don’t do OC’s or society any favours by creating a problem that doesn’t need to be.
You really don’t.
If you had a choice, would you choose to be an only child?
Gee… let me think about th……. ummmmmmmmm NO!!!!!
Tell your story, opinions, experiences.
I don’t have time. I wish I did although very little of it would really make much sense. I live it all over and over in my head every singe day and I wish I could just erase it all like a video. To have a blank slate, to be free… I don’t like being me… I don’t want to be me.
Don’t have children, full stop, but if you are going to saddle this world of eight billion with more then for the love of God and Yahwen have TWO!!!! As almost all people already do.
Creating OC’s is Child Abuse and it WILL ruin them. Parents take note, try listening for once and actually thinking about something other than I want. In the end they won’t thank you, and they are totally right not too. Don’t force on others that which you avoided.