What does being non-binary mean to you?

Non-binary can mean a lot of things. I use the label to describe how I don’t fit into the gender norms

What are your thoughts on the concept of gender?

I believe there are many more genders than just male and female.

Do you think society as a whole would function differently if no one was assigned a gender at birth?

Kids could play with any toys they like. Boys could play with dolls and wear dresses with makeup. Girls could play with water guns and cars. Adults wouldn’t be judged as much for being themselves as a bonus.

Do you feel like you were misgendered at birth? What do you wish that you would have been gendered as?

I was born an afab and hated it, and I wish that I wasn’t gendered at all

Do you consider yourself transgender?

No

Do you plan on transitioning in any way? Name change, pronouns, surgery etc…

I’ve legally changed my name, and I’m socially changing my pronouns. I’m waiting for a binder, but I plan to remove my chest someday.

What are your preferred pronouns and how did you decide?

They/Them, I’ve always liked using those pronouns and one day decided that it was mine for good

How strict are you with making sure people use your preferred pronouns and how vital are they to easing dysphoria?

I try to correct people whenever it’s possible to do so. It’s very vital

How soon after meeting someone do you explain your gender and ask them to use your preferred pronouns?

As annoying as it is, I’m pretty closed about my gender at first and plan to eventually tell them about how I feel in that sense.

What are your thoughts on dead naming?

It sucks; my dead name is one of the worst.

How would you describe your sexual orientation?

I’m bi and pomosexual

Did understanding your gender change your understanding of your sexuality?

Not really

Are you monogamous or non-monogamous?

non-monogamous

What is your gender expression?

I’m mostly neither but like masculine clothes.

Do you feel dysphoria? What is dysphoria like for you?

Yes, outside of the monthly schedule that I hate, there are other things that I have to deal with that are also a pain.

How often do you have doubts about your gender identity?

It depends on my outlook on myself.

How did you first discover non-binary?

A youtuber named One topic did a video on it.

How did you come to realise that you were non-binary?

Watching his videos and slowly discovering that I relate to a lot of things that are being said in them.

How did it change how you lived your life, if it did at all?

It removed a feeling that I had to be someone who I wasn’t

How long have you identified as non-binary?

2 years

Have societal pressures ever made you question/suppress your non-binary identity?

Sometimes

Why do you think it’s difficult for some people to grasp the concept of non-binary?

Because folk are used to each other’s genitals being the only way to describe gender.

How did you start to come to terms with your non-binary identity?

Living in my own space, I’ve slowly loved being myself.

Has your understanding of non-binary shifted since you first learned about it?

Yes, mainly about myself, though.

What are things about non-binary you wish people understood better?

genders can be outside the box

Have you come out as non-binary? If yes, how did you come out?

Yes, I corrected some folk on how they identified me.

How did you decide who to tell and who do you tell now when meeting new people?

I decide on how folk behave; if they suck, I won’t tell them, but if I think they’re alright, I’ll come out about my gender.

How did people react to your coming out?

Some folk hate me now, and I’ve gotten kicked out of a house. But I’ve also had my fair share of folk who have accepted my gender.

What’s something you wish you had known about non-binary before coming out?

That I’m agender too

What’s the hardest part about coming out?

Acceptance

What is dating and finding a romantic partner like?

It’s more complicated than straight dating, but I’ve managed to find someone

What are your thoughts on dating apps?

I don’t use them

How has identifying as non-binary affected your relationships?

I’ve had to ask a few more personal questions. There was also a strange stage since my gender changed quite a lot in my relationship, but things ended up being fine in the end.

What is it like using public restrooms?

It’s already tough since I don’t like using the toilet in public. However, there are plenty of gender-neutral bathrooms where I live, so finding one isn’t too hard.

What are your thoughts on having kids? Do you plan to have kids someday?

I don’t want any kids

What are your thoughts on skoliosexuality (attraction to any gender or nongender that isn’t cisgender)?

It’s cool

Do you consider yourself to be part of the LGBTQIA+ community?

Yes

Do you identify as queer? If not, how do you identify?

Also yes

Are you religious? If so, how does your faith and queerness work together?

No

Have you ever been to a pride parade? How did it go?

Yes, it went great

Do you agree that pride month is necessary?

Yes

How has having the non-binary label benefited you?

In a way, it helps me identify my gender

How do you feel about representation of non-binary in media?

From the few characters I’ve seen, it’s rather good

A kid asks if you are a boy or a girl, respond.

I’m neither

How do you deal with unfair/mean comments?

Report and block the user

What non-binary stereotypes do you relate to?

Not being human

What are the most annoying things people have said to you about being non-binary?

Are you still non-binary? deadnaming and misgendering

What are misconceptions about being non-binary?

it’s not the same as being trans

What are things to NOT say to a non-binary person?

asking boy or girl questions

How involved would you say you are with the non-binary community?

I’m a bit involved; I used to be in a reddit group

What are things you love about being non-binary, or being part of the non-binary community?

Not being a gender

How often do you meet other non-binary people?

It’s common in the groups that I’m in.

How do you recognise other non-binary people irl?

They’re vocal about their gender and have a pin somewhere.

How do you meet and connect with fellow non-binary people?

The pride groups that I’m in

Do you think sexuality , romantic attraction and gender identity are things that people are born with, influenced by upbringing, or both?

It’s something you’re born with

What’s it like being queer in your country/society?

With all the support and amount of folk that I know in my community, rather easy

How have you been subjected to queerphobia?

Deliberate misgendering

How can people be better allies to non binary people?

Using the correct pronouns

What are some of your favorite pieces of media with authentic representation everyone should watch?

The owl house and One Topic

Who are your favorite non-binary celebrities or characters?

Raine whispers and BMO (adventure time)