What does being agender mean to you?
no gender identity
What are your thoughts on the concept of gender?
oppressive social construct that needs to be abolished
Have you ever doubted the existence of gender?
yes
Do you think society as a whole would function differently if no one was assigned a gender at birth?
differently? not very much, but it’ll make the world a lot better if we abolished gender
Do you feel agender? If so, what does that feel like?
it feels like nothing
Is there a term you use to describe yourself?
agender girl*
Do you consider yourself non-binary?
yes
Do you feel transgender?
this question doesn’t make sense. i do identify as trans though, yes.
Do you plan on transitioning in any way? Name change, pronouns, surgery etc…
yes, want surgery(s)
What are your preferred pronouns and how did you decide?
she/they/it, just followed what felt nice
How strict are you with making sure people use your preferred pronouns and how vital are they to easing dysphoria?
people im out to don’t misgender me. it’s not that vital.
How soon after meeting someone do you explain your agender identity and ask them to use non-gendered terms and your preferred pronouns?
never done so
What are your thoughts on dead naming?
if deliberate, it’s literally disrespecting someone’s existence. a gigantic dick move
What is your preferred honorific?
miss or mx
How would you describe your sexual orientation?
pansexual
Did understanding your agender identity change your understanding of your sexuality?
yeah, i learned that i have no business with gender
Are you monogamous or non-monogamous?
in between
What is your gender expression?
fem/andro
Do you feel dysphoria? What is dysphoria like for you?
i feel a lot of dysphoria. i can’t describe it but im barely surviving.
How often do you have doubts about your gender identity?
like every 10 seconds when i first realized about 15 months ago. i don’t really have doubts now though. maybe like once a week?
How often do you feel a desire to present or identify as identities aside from agender, be it your AGAB (assigned gender at birth), the opposite one, or non-binary?
always because im not publicly out yet
What are your thoughts on gender nullification surgery?
dont want it
How did you first discover agender?
i identified as a binary trans woman at first
and then asked myself if i *feel* like a woman, the answer was… i felt nothing
How did you come to realise that you were agender?
already answered
How did it change how you lived your life, if it did at all?
not really, just eased my dysphoria a little
How long have you identified as agender?
3 months
Have societal pressures ever made you question/suppress your agender identity?
yeah
Why do you think it’s difficult for some people to grasp the concept of agender?
they don’t know what gender actually is
How did you start to come to terms with your agender identity?
there was no coming to terms
How did people react to your coming out?
they just said cool
because i only came out to people who would react positively
What are your thoughts on dating apps?
i hate the american dating culture. turning dating into a “market” is just bullshit. dating apps have an incentive to keep you on the platform, making long term relationships less likely. i do not think dating on dating apps is inferior though.
What is it like filling legal forms about gender?
pain
What is it like using public restrooms?
i just male restrooms because that’s how i currently present. it makes me feel horrible but what can you do, a girl’s gotta pee
Does sexism affect your life in any way?
yes but not me directly
What are your thoughts on having kids? Do you plan to have kids someday?
i plan to adopt
If you were to have kids someday, what would you like them to refer you as?
mom probably
What are your thoughts on skoliosexuality (attraction to any gender or nongender that isn’t cisgender)?
idk what that is, sounds a bit fishy though
Do you consider yourself to be part of the LGBTQIA+ community?
yes
Do you identify as queer? If not, how do you identify?
yes
Are you religious? If so, how does your faith and queerness work together?
no
How do you feel about how agender is perceived in the LGBTQIA+ community?
transmedicalists can eat my shit
my literal existence is enough to discredit their ideas. “a pansexual non-binary agender trans girl* who has a lot of dysphoria”
Have you experienced discrimination in the LGBTQIA+ community?
yes, from trans people, no less lmao
What bothers you in the LGBTQIA+ community?
the stupid fucking arguments on labels, dumb fuck gatekeepers, cis gay men cis/mansplaining everything, ableist fucks
we’re really divided
Have you ever been to a pride parade? How did it go?
don’t want to be detained by the police inside a bus with no food water or toilet until the next fucking morning
Do you agree that pride month is necessary?
yes
What are your thoughts about “ally” being added to the LGBTQIA+ acronym?
the acronym can suck my dick
it’s too long and unwieldy.
lgbtq+ is enough
the + identities were always part of the community, so adding them to the acronym now makes it seem like they weren’t here before
just say queer to refer to *the gays*
What are your thoughts on labels?
don’t force labels onto people
don’t be strict with the definitions
let ppl do whatever they want.
personally if i don’t like labels that much, if someone asks me my identity, i would just say im non-binary and leave it at that. if they want more specific labels, i can serve them with the clusterfuck that is “pansexual non-binary agender trans girl*”
How has having the agender label benefited you?
eased dysphoria
made me understand gender better
and it makes the cis hella confused to hear agender girl
How do you feel about representation of agender in media?
can’t have feelings about something that doesn’t exist
What would you like to say to people who question agender as a gender identity?
who fucking cares just follow the euphoria
Do you think that some of the misconceptions come from the idea that gender and sex are the same thing?
some? lmao
almost all of it come from here
A kid asks if you are a boy or a girl, respond.
neither
How do you deal with people who are curious about your agender identity?
i explain it
i don’t have a gender identity
but i like being treated as a girl due to dysphoria
How do you deal with unfair/mean comments?
i don’t get them yet :3
What are the most annoying things people have said to you about being agender?
that i don’t exist or some shit. truscum bullshit
Do you think sexuality, romantic attraction and gender identity are things that people are born with, influenced by upbringing, or both?
mostly born with
but as with all genetics, external factors can still affect gene expression and shit like that
so it’s also influenced by what happens after you’re born
What’s it like being queer in your country/society?
i will commit unalive if i can’t leave this place within 5 years
How have you been subjected to queerphobia?
not me specifically cuz im not out
What would you like to say to queerphobic people?
empathy please
Give a message to the queer community
don’t gatekeep :3