What is your definition of introvert?

Someone that needs ALOT of energy to interact with the world. They’re not shy or socially anxious.

Have you always been an introvert or did you develop introversion?

I’ve always been an introvert.

What is your personality type?

INFP supposedly

Are you neurodivergent?

Not that I know of.

Are you shy?

It depends. In most cases, I’m just standoffish when I first meet people.

Do you have anxiety?

Not officially. But I do have an anxious personality which is different.

Are you a loner?

Oh yes I am!

Were you bullied?

Yep.

Do you have friends?

Define the word ‘friend’.

How do you make friends?

Going to group activities and sharing interests with others.

Are you usually very outgoing among people you’re close with?

With the people I’m close with, yes.

How do you feel about being the center of attention?

It depends on what it is. If it’s something good then it’s nice for a bit. Anything else is a big fat no.

Are you a good listener?

Not always the best. My focus is crap.

Do you talk to yourself?

In my head, yes.

Do you truly enjoy solitude?

No.

Do you often overthink?

Yes. More of a hindrance.

Do you enjoy creating detailed fake scenarios in your mind?

Yes.

Do you dislike people?

Generally, yes due to painful experiences but it’s dependant on the situation.

Are you a night owl or early bird?

Night owl.

Do you enjoy reading?

Yes!

Do you consider yourself very emotional/sensitive?

Yes to both.

Do you consider yourself to be independent?

Yes and no depending on what it is I’m independent about.

Do you have pets?

No but I wish I had a pet.

What is your zodiac sign?

Libra with a scorpio moon.

What is your IQ?

Fuck knows.

What is your attachment style?

Disorganised or anxious-avoidant.

How often do you drink coffee?

Barely. I don’t like coffee unless it’s a latte or something like that.

Do you prefer to share your thoughts or keep them to yourself?

I’d like to share but I have a habit of saying too much when it’s not necessary.

Do you think that being talkative equates confidence? Are you confident?

No – sometimes being nervous makes you talk more for some people.

Texting or talking?

Texting.

What are your hobbies?

Playing guitar, reading, going to gigs.

What is your favorite season of the year?

Summer. But I like it when it’s between summer and autumn temperature wise.

What is your dream country?

Japan maybe?

What is your dream job?

Psychotherapist, or a musician.

Describe your dream vacation.

Hong Kong or some beachy part of Japan.

What is your idea of a perfect day?

Completing everything I need to do and then chilling after with a hobby.

How do you have fun?

Going to gigs or a night out with friends. Or just hobbies at home with no one else in the flat.

How often do you use social media?

Very often. For the sweet memes.

Do people often misunderstand you?

Yes they do.

How do you spend your weekends?

Doing chores, gym usually, journalling, watching TV, guitar.

How’s your relationship with your family?

It’s getting slowly better but still difficult.

What’s your idea of the perfect relationship?

Where you both listen to each other and put in the effort to make it work. Spending time with each other, a good level of intimacy, constantly getting to know each other and taking an interest. Being that person’s rock when they need it and sticking up for each other. Show that you genuinely care about them. Have a sense of humour but don’t insult each other.

How’s your temper?

What temper? That’s the thing.

What calms you down when you’re upset?

Giving me my own space until I’m ready to talk.

How do you feel about physical touch?

I love it when it’s from people I know and feel close to.

How is your love life?

Alright. I have no complaints.

How does introversion affect your love life?

People think I’m anti social – I’m not. Other than that, I can balance my introversion with the need for a romantic connection.

What is your love language? What should be your partner’s priority when it comes to caring for you?

– Physical touch

– Show that you actually care about me. Show concern, ask if I’m okay, hug me and be my rock when I need it. Reach out to me and extend your arms for me to take advantage of that private space.

What are your thoughts on marriage?

It’s a mixed view but a massive commitment that needs to be thought about very carefully. If you’re more than 100% sure this person is your person, then go for it with the knowledge of what the consequences are, and accepting it wholeheartedly.

How is your mental health?

It’s not the best but with therapy it’s getting better bit by bit.

How does introversion affect your career?

My work place prefers extroverts so, it affects it massively. If you’re not extroverted, you won’t fit in.

In what ways has introversion affected your relationships/friendships negatively?

It’s had an effect on keeping contact with those I love. I don’t reach out as much as I should and I should check in on others. On the other hand, others have not checked in with me.

Have you lost opportunities due to introversion?

More like losing opportunities due to fear and insecurity.

What do you think about small talks and chit-chats?

I try it but it can be a bit boring and sometimes a bit forced.

How do you feel about parties?

Depends on who’s party it is. Mostly, they’re boring.

How do you feel about your birthday? How do you celebrate birthdays?

They’re fine but awkward at the gift giving part. There’s a feeling of awkwardness due to past events and I hate receiving them.

I celebrate with family which is small and sweet.

What do you think is your worst personality trait?

Either my selfishness or, not listening. They’re on par with each other.

What do you think is your best personality trait?

… I’m supportive according to others?

What stereotypes about introverts do you not relate to?

The shyness. I’m more standoffish.

What stereotypes about introverts do you relate to?

That we’re quiet.

How do you recharge after long periods of socializing?

Watch my favourite shows and eat, sleep, listen to music.

What are your views about extroverts?

Some are too loud, some talk too much and some know social etiquette. My view on extroverts is that some are okay but it’s the small percentage that doesn’t know how to act around other people that aren’t extroverted, and it’s a shame because they might be nice people. They just need to know how to interact properly.

What’s the most extrovert-y thing you’ve ever done?

Lead a group.

Have you ever tried faking extroversion? How did that go?

I don’t think I’ve tried to fake it.

Fill in the gap. If it were possible, I’d stay in _ percent of the time.

60%

How do you deal with confrontation/arguments?

I don’t deal with it well. If I can speak to that person about it, fine but arguing is a big no no.

How do you deal with pushy people?

It depends on what it is but not the greatest at dealing with them. But if they make me angry, I’ll tell them to piss off.

How do you get ready for social interaction?

Listen to upbeat music. Get the adrenaline going.

Have you been in leadership roles? How did/do you cope?

Yes but not exactly great at being a leader. You can be an introvert and be a good leader though.

Do you think that there are few introverts , compared to extroverts?

I think some people are good at putting up a front. But I do think there are more extroverts.

What are the most annoying things people have said to you about being an introvert?

‘Why are you so quiet?’ ‘How come you don’t talk?’ you’re too quiet.

What did your parents do right and wrong, in raising an introverted child?

No clue.

Do you sometimes wish you weren’t an introvert?

At times. I just wish I was more outgoing and less socially awkward.

What are disadvantages of being an introvert?

We’re seen as not being confident or arrogant. Also, we’re overlooked because of that assumption so, we don’t get promoted and such.

What are advantages of being an introvert?

We have time to process mentally, imo.

What is an introvert’s nightmare?

Personally, my nightmare would be speaking infront of a massive crowd last minute with no prep or any idea what the topic is that I’m meant to be speaking about.

What are the biggest misconceptions about introverts?

We don’t like to talk. We do, we just need time to process. Also, we’re not anti social.

What are things to NOT say to introverts?

Why are you so quiet? Speak up.

Say something to fellow introverts.

I get that you don’t want to attend an event at last minute but please do check on your friends to make sure they understand you, and make sure they don’t feel rejected by you. Some people have quality time as their love language.

Say something to non-introverts.

Please stop asking rude question and just speak to us – we don’t bite. Also, educate yourself on what introversion is.

Who’s your favorite introvert celebrity/character?

I don’t have one.

What are your favorite introvert quotes?

I don’t have one on introversion but I’ll share a favourite:

“Most things will be okay eventually, but not everything will be. Sometimes you’ll put up a good fight and lose. Sometimes you’ll hold on really hard and realize there is no choice but to let go. Acceptance is a small, quiet room.” – Cheryl Strayed

Do you love or hate being an introvert?

I am neither. I am what I am.

“Are you okay? Why are you so quiet? You need to learn to speak up” Reply savagely.

Oh… It’s that noise again. What’s that noise you ask? Well, it’s the intensity of your babel that brings insufferable tinnitus to my ears so, maybe it’s about time you need to learn to SHUT THE FUCK UP.

Tell your story, opinions, experiences.

There was this one time I was at work, and this guy came up to me and ask why I was so quiet. I responded because I can bitch. He later became my friend.